It didn't happen overnight. Gradually I realized we were just growing apart. We had different interests. I was into achieving career success. He was into showing me people who had achieved career success, like TV stars, professional athletes, celebrities, you know. We spent all of our time together this way. Minutes turned into hours, hours turned into evening, after evening, after evening. But what was in it for me?
Sure, we had some good times. I remember the season finale of Tyrant like it was yesterday. Couldn't get enough of my favorite Netflix shows either. But after setting some goals to complete by the end of this year and seriously stepping up my career game lately, I realized just how little time was left in the evening after getting home from work. I mean, I wanted to read some new books, network online and in person with other career oriented women like me, and listen to the most informative Periscopes I'd missed throughout the day. Before I knew it, it was 11:00pm (or later). I'd crawl into bed thinking of all the stuff I wished I had been able to squeeze in that day if I hadn't run out of time. Sometimes I'd think, "oh wow, I missed Scandal", or "isn't this the night that show comes on?". After a few weeks, I didn't miss any of it. I realized that my TV was nothing more than a 73" state-of-the-art distraction, stealing the precious time that I never seemed to have enough of to begin with.
Can't we just be friends? That's what I keep thinking these days, as my ex is giving me that turned-off, cold, blank stare whenever I walk past him to and from the kitchen in the morning. My old favorite TV watching-nap taking-vegging out recliner chair that sits across from the TV is taking it just as hard. Reminding me of how I used to sit there with my boyfriend and my hubby after a long day of work. Now I think what a weird triangle that was. All that lost time and not a thing to show for it. I can almost hear that chair calling, "oooh baby, come back, I miss you, sit down for a minute and watch a little TV with me." Umm, sorry I've got a webinar to be on.....game over, playuh.
Kick it to the curb and gain at least 2 extra days every week! Yes, you can do this. Just think, if you conservatively estimate your daily TV watching at 2 and 1/2 hours each night Monday through Friday, plus 3 hours each day on Saturday and Sunday (could be much more, you know who you are) that comes to more than 18 hours a week. That's 2 full 9 hour work days a week, including a 1 hour lunch! What could you do with 2 extra workdays a week for yourself? Since I quit mindlessly turning on the TV and sitting there for way too long, I've gained these amazing things -- you could too...
- I actually have time to spend a full hour at the gym 3 days a week. My post workout muscle soreness has me feeling strong instead of feeling like a slug after sitting in a chair for 3 or 4 hours then complaining about being feeling worn out. Have you been trying to find the time to walk or workout? How about spending time on Sunday afternoon cooking enough healthy food for the week to take for lunch each day or eat for dinner each night. Money, calories and diet saved!
- Getting smarter. I may not be able to plow through 1 book a day like Tai Lopez but I know I'm on track to read 1 book a month, which will definitely accelerate my goals for the next 3 - 6 months. The ones I'm reading now will help in the development of new training available in 2016. Have you been trying to find the time to get an online degree? How 'bout an online certification to increase your opportunities for promotion at work? Maybe you've just always wanted to learn to play the guitar. Hmm, or maybe give guitar lessons as a side business?
- Productivity is on fire. I've been more productive these past 6 months than all of last year. If you look back to 2014 you'll see a few blog posts, tapering off to nothing, then picking up insummer of this year. Since June I've written several newer posts, done 2 video interviews, learned how to use iMovie to edit the video, launched a GoodWorkSense Youtube account, Facebook page, Instagram and Twitter account. I spend time building these accounts everyday. And that's just the beginning. What project or plan have you started but never had time to finish? If it's still important, why not take it off the back burner and devote your newly discovered time to it?
- Momentum is giving me life. I mean it's really, doing just that in terms of my own creativity and inspiration. Because I'm spending far more time doing what I kept thinking I should've been doing (while my boyfriend was keeping me distracted), I'm exposed to more ideas, people, information, events, images -- you name it-- that inspire new creative ideas of my own. Once you turn down the distractions, you may find that your own creative voice turns up. If you've been carrying around an idea for a creative project, hobby or business...time to give birth to that baby already!
So is my TV frenemy the villain of this story? Not really. It is what what is, operating exactly for its purpose. I'm the one that had to wake up and just say no. Oh we'll get together here an and there for a mindless break every now and then. We'll have a steady date once a week when we the new season of House of Cards is released (that's if I can resist binge-watching the whole thing in 1 week), but it's good to know it won't ever be the same.
Have you ever had to break-up with something that was quietly sucking the life, time, money out of you? Social media...shopping...your job? What did you gain? We're all ears!